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Amy Rohan's avatar

All we ever want is more time together.

Just one more time... can't wait to punch death with you.

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

We are going to beat him down so hard, he’s gone be crying, “Uncle!”

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Keith Long's avatar

This whole thing is so very strong

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Kara Westerman (she/her)'s avatar

This hit on very level. I can't believe how beautiful what you are doing with these kids is. And grief. yes. There's no way to hold it together. iIwrite about this a lot. After my husband died I knew I had to fall completely apart so the pieces could reassemble someday. You work is always stunning. Just so you know.

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

Thank you, Kara! This letter has been months in the making and years in the thinking…

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Nancy Ulin's avatar

"Something that was, suddenly isn't." That is beautiful. I am just seeing your letter to Amy, and you have said it all.

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Lyndsey Resnick's avatar

"You" and "me". That's what we have. How we can relate. This letter is one of the most beautiful things I've ever read, Sandalore. You have the biggest heart. Living after loss is one of our hardest challenges. Living in anticipation of loss, too. Thank you for your continued openness. Your willingness to wrestle with your thoughts in the light. Your words always feel like a gift.

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

Wow! This hit me hard. I am so happy it moved you, it felt like a release to write and publish it, since it’s been stewing and developing for months. Toi et moi, baby…. living on…

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Lyndsey Resnick's avatar

We have to keep trying.

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Gina Burton's avatar

Wow. You really are an angel, Sandolore🙏

We all grieve differently, some of us forever. I think it’s because we think that if we stopped, it would mean that we no longer cared. Our grief is the thing that keeps our lost loved one close.

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

Not at all an angel, Gina… but a lover of humans, for sure. Yes, grief is binding…

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Maggie Shontz's avatar

I loved this in its heartrending entirety. Also, I hope your visit with one another is like a lovely old sweatshirt - familiar, soft and comforting. 🩷

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

I know it will be. Thank you, Maggie!

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Anna Schott's avatar

Wonderful

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Sandolore Sykes's avatar

Coming from you, that word means a trillion!

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Anna Schott's avatar

Aw, shit

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